Wednesday, March 26, 2014

I dont fit in with these girls

SOUTHERN GIRLS.....

I was thinking about this yesterday while driving for some strange reason maybe I was thinking about how EVERYBODY posts about how they are a "southern girl" I dont know anyways my thoughts were I dont fit into that catergory but I do live in the south so what does that make me???

You wont catch me fishing and hold nasty slimy fish up for a million pictures that a bunch of "country boys" like.

You wont find me in cowboy boots with dresses.

I rarely order sweet tea

I REFUSE to kill a animal of any kind.... well except for these 3 fish Travis had with that girl and to be honest I had to repent about throwing those healthy VERY ALIVE fish over the fence and hearing them flop around till they died... but they had to go just like she did!

I don't intentionally draw out my words or try to have an accent - however according to my cousins I do have one

I DO HAVE MANNERS! I do say yes mam and no sir but really? c'mon that should be everybody

I WILL NEVER WEAR CAMO!!!!!

I only listened to country music when I was little and then to impress a boy and when I say boy that he was.

I don't wear or even like those sandals every girl has down here Jack Rogers I think they are called??

I don't need my monogram on anything!!!

You wont find me buying those shirts that having sayings about southern girls either like the GRITS one and others.. I do own a Calcutta shirt and those ones with the fishes on them EVERYBODY wears around here... but that was again for that boy.

See!!! I am a girl very GIRLY girl who lives in the south but don't fit in...

Maybe I would be more of a Southern Belle... NO! because I don't like to follow everyone else....

Oh well!! I am me! What can I say??






Tuesday, March 25, 2014

The book I never finished HA! but sorta serious. Dont laugh!

I don't think anyone knows this except maybe 3 people but I sorta tried to start writing a book back when we were separated. I always thought it would be neat to do so but I am not a 'professional' writer, English was my worst subject I can tell you what a Noun and a Verb are and that is about it. Yeah, I know so then why even think about a book, well I had a great client who was a writer (actually published books and did well) tell me to try it one day just from her hearing me talk and my outlook on life. At that point in time I had some free time.... okay A LOT of free time to do so, so I just for fun started with 3 chapters. I found that writing about my current situation was super easy (everybody can write when they are heartbroken duh! just go read my other blog http://consciouslyconfident.blogspot.com/) so I thought it would be fun to share just the first chapter with y'all....

Dont JUDGE me!!

....and church people there is one little part about the praise and worship but seriously dont take it personal it was in between the split and all that jazz.... You guys are AMAZING now :)

I will go ahead and tell you the reason I stopped with the three chapters is because OBVIOUSLY we got back together but it happened two weeks I think after I wrote this... and well everybody also knows its HARD to write when your happy! yea I don't know either but its true!

So umm.... enjoy???

Oh! Grab a cup of coffee or Mt Dew you made need help to stay awake.

Like We Were Meeting For The First Time 

Chapter 1

He said “yeah, where do you want to go”? “It doesn’t matter wherever you want. I’ll buy your lunch let’s just go” I replied, thinking that would seal the deal. While walking down the aisle to the back of the sanctuary we decided on a place, we made our way out and got in our cars. The skies were grey with rain clouds covering any glimpse of the blue sky that lie behind. The rain fell like it were washing away the past and creating a clean slate as we drove down the highway, headlights glowing, windshield wipers steady in there side to side motion. While rushing to the door it felt as if it got 10 degrees colder in that short of a distance, he grabbed the door and held it as I walked in to the smell of what I was hoping to be delicious Italian food. He led me to a table over by the wall under the TV, as we sat down it started to sink in that I was finally sitting down with him able to talk, looking directly at him, no interruptions, no time restrictions and it felt so good. I have been waiting and day dreaming of how this would go if I ever got the chance again.

I’ve wondered if it would be extremely awkward, too intense; sit there with nothing to talk about in silence. I’ve wondered if all the emotions from the past 13 months would come rushing back, if it would hurt. I thought that I might be so happy I’d smile the whole time like a little school girl with her first crush. What I really anticipated was it feeling like I was sitting with my old best friend and in a sense it did a little but even more than I could have thought it was as if we knew almost everything about each other but were meeting for the very first time.

As the waitress came over to take our order we made small talk, about the tenuous down pour outside, the stories they were covering on the news above my seat, work, all of the obvious that you would if talking to someone for the first time.  Then it’s as if it was all natural, the easiness of talking with him came back but without and recollections of our past. I had told him I was on my way to a church in Wilmington but realized I wouldn’t make it in time so I then decided to just go to Beach Assembly seeing’s how I was already dressed and out. Now let me mind you I have only been out there a handful of times over the past year, so I usually still feel a bit standoffish towards everyone. This morning however I talked to these people the entire time before the service started. It felt like my home church again. Like when I was 13 and 14 years old and just came in like this was “my” church, not one I’m just visiting. While talking to everyone I spotted Travis setting up his guitar and music on stage, next time I scanned for him he was right by the door as if he was waiting to say “hey” to me but didn’t want to interrupt so he went on by and sat down. Praise and Worship was alright, considering the situation and of course maybe I’m a little biases but Travis sounds much better than he ever has in the past. The sermon was to the point and once we said Amen, I gathered my things and walked to some friends that he was standing beside and chit chatted so I could be in the mix without feeling like I was going directly to talk to him. My heart was still pounding a little faster than usual, however I felt very confident and at ease in the same instance. He asked “what are you doing today”? I replied with “nothing at all, you want to go get something to eat”? “yeah, where do you want to go”? he responded.

As our food was laid down on the table in front of us I told him I couldn’t continue to go to Breath of Life with no pastor, and the fact that no matter the day or mood I’m in during Worship I can only see and hear him playing guitar and therefore I cannot concentrate on what I should be doing. But when at Beach I can actually see him so I don’t have to envision him, instead I can focus solely on God. He asked why I don’t just go there and why I left in the first place. I explained my reasons then changed the subject to something more interesting, I asked if it was weird to talk about the people we had dated during this past year, my heart still turning out a beat faster than its normal rhythm. In which we did, I guess I was searching for any inclination as to how he really felt about that girl, hoping there were never really many towards her or at least nowhere near what he had for me at one time and hopefully even still. Why I was even worried about it is silly knowing he didn’t, no six months will ever compare to our 7 years we had. After picking at our food we put it in to go containers and brought our conversation to an end. Opening the door to the cold rain blowing in what seemed every direction we walked to our cars, as we were getting in he shouted out “see ya later” and I “ thanks for getting lunch with me finally” catching his eyes and locking in wondering if he was feeling the same way I was inside.

 Inside wishing that wasn’t going to be the end of our day, or maybe even a hug to say goodbye but neither. Happy that I even got the chance to sit down with no time restrictions or people around and just enjoy him. To look into his eyes again which seemed so different this time, they weren’t filled with misery like they have been, they were bright and I got the same looks I remember getting. It was as if he was hesitant to catch my gaze, probably because he didn’t want any feelings rushing back. That I understood, I was a little nervous too, considering I haven’t had any melt downs lately, and that God had definitely been working on me, my thoughts were gone of what we had, what we were. I have been made new, restored, let go of everything that was. Suddenly though I caught myself in a much happier mood, smiling big, a boost of energy rushing through my veins. Replaying every second of the morning over in my mind, making me ask God why do I feel like this, what just happened, I didn’t even plan on asking him to do anything today, I was supposed to be in Wilmington meeting new people not going to my old church, and definitely not spending time with my husband.

A few days had gone by and I noticed I still could not shake the thought of him. It was really bothering me because I felt as if God had just got me past all that, I was letting the thought of us go. Not dwelling on it anymore being just fine with that, happy, energetic, my reasoning now for waking up had been to see what God had for me, what He was going to do, who He might would introduce me to or what doors He may open up. But here I was now wondering is God up to something. Was there a completely different reason for God taking all the thoughts and emotions, the heartache, the anger, the bitterness away. Not necessarily so I would be a fresh, new mind, new heart, restored heart that is even better than the one I had before for someone new that I assumed He had for me in the future. Now I’m asking God if all of His healing had taken place for my marriages sake. Is there now a possibility that I needed to be made new so I could come back into this relationship as if we were meeting for the first time? Having been made new and whole I now understand that nothing can be of any good without God first, not even a marriage that I thought because I loved him was going to work just fine and be a fairy tale. As I continue to pray I am still praying His will be done, with or without Travis, that I am always on direction to my purpose.

It was after midnight laying there in my bed for the past two hours praying, thinking and praying some more realizing I wasn’t going to fall asleep anytime soon I got the notion to text Travis to see if he was still awake. To be honest I was expecting him to be asleep, knowing how he was when we were together he would have been.  So as I closed my eyes and decided to try and make myself fall asleep my phone vibrated, I opened up his message and read the word yes. I then responded with “can I ask you something and you be honest with me”? The bed vibrated again, those same three letters “yes”, I asked him “since lunch Sunday have you thought about me more than whatever your usual is or was”? Usually this is where he would have read what I wrote and just laid the phone down and not responded surprisingly he did with “yes I have”. I had a little more to say so I thought if I ask in simple short texts he would be more prone to answering. I texted him back and asked if he thought it was different though, as if it were the first time we were meeting, I got “yes, it wasn’t uncomfortable”. What pretty much ended the textation was myself sending back that I agree, and that I didn’t want him to think I thought we were getting back together or even trying to say that, but all I know is that I haven’t stopped thinking about him either. “I’m not sure what to do with that information right now” is what I read as the light from the screen lit up my bedroom.  I said okay and we said goodnight.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

My God is simply amazing!

I need to get out some excitement!

So if you have been reading my blog (before I went MIA) you know I have been on this search of my core, purpose, my reasoning for why God created me! With that being said you also know that I was thrilled about the Valentines dinner I did with the help of my Mommy and others.... You also should remember the revelation I had in the bathroom that night about some of the prophecy's I had and that I figured out that the "schooling" the one lady meant was an Event Planning course. So that puts us in this very moment NOW!!!

I looked into the classes at all the surrounding colleges and even online. The only place offering it were the online schools, anybody who knows me should know I am big on being 'hands on" when it comes to learning and such.. So last month our community college called me and said they finally had a class available and when it started, how much and what I needed to do to get registered. So I immediately called mom with my heart racing at the timing of it all and told her we needed to go sign up I wanted to go that very moment but because of my children and husband I couldn't but needless to say we went the next day!

Tonight made the third class we have had and I LOVE every minute of it!! I was the most excited about my teacher, shes pretty, shes young, actually a year younger than myself, so now I'm old! But she actually has her own company and the experience to back her teaching. Shes pretty amazing! The best part is she has a child... My biggest issue I am dealing with is trying to find me and my desires without feeling guilty for not wanting to just be a mom and wife. So to know she is and has been juggling it all I feel like is God's way of showing me its okay to want what He designed me for. To go after it. He could have given me an old teacher who I couldn't relate to but He didn't He gave me what I needed for my own..... umm well I don't know what the correct word is I am looking for but I am sure you understand what I am trying to say. I am so wowed its insane! Class excites me, just listening to her speak about all the stuff and accomplishments and daily tasks is crazy I find myself in a daze at times picturing myself doing those things and how it must feel. With every class I know this is IT! this is what my GIFT is, this is my calling!!!

You wanna hear the best part of it all????

I was also told during that Prophecy that God was going to show me favor in this class.... Well I was talking about this with mom last week and how I am looking forward to whatever this 'favor' is. ( I say it like that because its not like we have to take test or pass anything so I'm not going to need favor in that sort of way) Mom said well you never know maybe she will take on someone from the class as an intern or something. Which is what I had been thinking as well, so what does my teacher say first thing tonight ??? Yep! She will have a position as an apprentice open if anyone is interested and even after the apprenticeship if there is a spot available and the apprentice wants it they can become part of the team. So I am not saying in an arrogant or cocky way, or that I know it all and that's why I feel I deserve that spot but I do honestly believe that spot is mine, because I am willing to learn, I DONT know it all, besides what God has already placed down in me before I was even born I don't know much. What I do know is I can do this, I can be a great asset to her company, and Its kinda funny because I already feel like I am her friend, like we could have been friends for a while now so its kinda cool.

Still my only concern even as riding home was how in the world would I manage this and still be a great mom and wife? Theres no 'set' hours, its usually weekends as far as weddings taking place, I have church on Sundays, Saturdays when Travis isn't working are our FAMILY days, am I being selfish? Could it realistically work? Then all of a sudden while I was scrolling down on Facebook I came across this:

From none other than my FAVORITE person that God uses to speak to me thru Bishop Jakes, his fb post reads;

Don't allow your past or PRESENT condition to control you. It's just a process that you're going through to get to your next level.

SAY WHAT?!?!

Just because at this very moment I have no idea how I would manage to take on a job with the boys and where they would go and who they would be influenced by and whatever else goes along with that doesn't mean its always going to be like this. I really really feel like I am starting to get a glimpse and understanding of my future and my purpose. I want to be successful and happy and a great person for me, because once I am who I need to be then I can never fail at being the best Mother, Wife, Daughter, Friend. I have to know and find me! So its only going to get better from this day forward! I want my boys to have things and always be taken care of, I am tired of struggling, and going without. My God is so much bigger than that! He has placed so many things inside of each individual that for someone to just sit and settle on nothing is a waste of what He created you for. I want to make Him proud and use what He gave me. Do you know how many people I can meet and reach and witness to in so many ways by doing this?? Just by showing love is the biggest one, I believe when people meet me for the first time they immediately know something is different about me so I can still use this as my "ministry". Nobody ever said it had to be in the church, my career can be my ministry. So I am going for this. With my all, because with God what can stand in my way? He is opening doors and I will walk through them!!!

I know this was SUPER longgggggggggggggg but I had to get it out :)

Friday, March 14, 2014

I'm still alive...

So I've been MIA from here for too long!! We had moved and had t had the wifi switched yet and then just trying to get things some what live able has been quite time consuming!! 

So I want to fill you in on my newest adventure!! I did it, I signed up for Special Event Cordinator classes and have had two of them so far! I love it!!! My teacher is super cute and only 25! She is so incredibly successful at her young age it's inspiring. Her company is BAO Events. She also is a mother which makes me believe I can do both! She's so full of information it's mind blowing. I love her! My momma is doing the classes with me in hopes to maybe start our own company or just see where this goes.. 

I have class twice a week for 3 hrs each night! It's what I've been looking for that's 'mine' makes me happy outside of being mommy and wife. This is just what I needed! I'm excited to see where this takes me, where God takes me with this! So until next time... Have a great weekend! Happy early St. Patricks day, we will be spending Saturday in Wilmington at the parade! Last year the St Patricks day parade was the very first the boys had gone to it also was the first time they got sunburn! So sunscreen this year:) I'm excited to get out and have a fun family day in NICE weather!!!!!